I feel as though my life is one large to-do list. It’s not like I’m buried underneath a lot of paperwork and need to catch up on it (that is starting to start though as I shift into more of a management role), but I can’t seem to escape them. A list of songs to play, a list of books to read, grocery list, list of times of when to check-up on things on a vehicle, lists of things I need to do, should do, or should avoid as much as possible.
It’s a puzzling situation for me. We’ve grown up in a world where the information is vast and wild, no visual patterns to it all or very subtle ones (ie a forest). Here we are in a world where you walk down the street, you’re surrounded by all these options of things to explore and do. Instead of going off the beaten path and exploring, you make a mental note of the spots you discovered and create a list of places to go check out later. For such a disorganized world that we live in, we sure obsess over organization and creating lists. There’s no option of walking into a restaurant and asking, “Can you make a dish that contains this for me?” and waiting to see what happens. We all prefer to look down a list of items the restaurant has to offer first.
This is doubly true for when searching out for a partner in life. Like it or not, everyone creates a list of things that appeals to them and they go out hunting for someone that contains those attributes. This is only leads to great disappointment. You find that the dream person you’ve been searching for matches up so well, but you can’t get over the flaws that they possess. You don’t want to let the person go because of the good qualities they possess when the rest of them is corrupted. Or vice versa, you find the corrupted person with no qualities that you’re looking for in a person, but you’re still drawn to them. You fight and resist that person because of the lack of qualities they possess that you’re looking for.
I wish life were more like how people experience music. People are more willing to go out on a limb and listen to something they normally wouldn’t listen to, and the odds are is they’ll enjoy it once they actually listen to the music. You don’t like country music because of what country music stands for (the rednecks, the sappy songs, the drawl and cowboy hats), not because the actual music is bad. Okay, bad example. Country music is that bad, but there’s a lot of good music in the world that people don’t listen to because of how it’s branded. They’ve grown accustomed to listening to a certain style of music and don’t want to let go of it. I say let go of what you’re used to and start exploring more often.
Which means we should stop using lists so much. Buy what you feel like buying when you see it, eat what you want when you want, and eliminate your ideals of what the perfect person or song is. Ride the waves of life and enjoy what you come across for what it is, not what you want it to be.